tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589230673371091760.post1234160993531351796..comments2023-05-05T02:19:35.636-07:00Comments on Mary Kay - Mother: 1957Baby JoanMary Joins the FamilyMary Kay Stewarthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14850931977538317404noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589230673371091760.post-80365838093396734502012-01-22T11:26:13.967-07:002012-01-22T11:26:13.967-07:00I did breastfeed through the early month when the ...I did breastfeed through the early month when the goody things are all there. Seems what we might be pointing to is an additional factor in post-partum depression occurs when the mother is not fully cognizant when giving birth. And what a spark to it all happens when the father is there, too. The medical system denied what nature intended.Mary Kay Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14850931977538317404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4589230673371091760.post-79450746362538398752012-01-08T18:42:55.719-07:002012-01-08T18:42:55.719-07:00Mom, I am wondering if your bewilderment and depre...Mom, I am wondering if your bewilderment and depression after my birth also had to do with:<br /><br />- Post-natal depression. You were fortunately spared the experience with your earlier 3 babies. In those days, it wasn't talked about or recognized as much.<br /><br />- Because you weren't breast feeding, you weren't getting the hormones (oxytocin and prolactin) that relax the mother and make her feel more nurturing toward her baby.<br /><br />- Plain exhaustion from having 3 little children. In addition, my brothers awoke at all hours of the night, and Dad studied at night at the desk near the bed. <br /><br />- You were learning to spread your love among 4 children and a husband. You would eventually get better at spreading out the love throughout the family, but you had to go through a learning curve. You may have been sad and angry at yourself that it wasn't an easy transition.<br /><br />- You had to come to terms in your heart that your anticipation of what you thought a baby daughter should be was only a fantasy.<br /><br />- Lingering grief about the miscarriages that happened in the 3 years between Kevin and me. From my own experience, I know how a miscarriage can break the heart.<br /><br />I am sorry you went through this. I feel for you because I am also a woman. You must not blame yourself. You did the best you could.<br /><br />Love,<br />Joan Mary<br />xJoan Stewart Smithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08575475711960507292noreply@blogger.com